The idea that parenthood, and in particular, motherhood, should be the central focus of every adult life, means that a woman’s worth is frequently judged by whether or not she is a mother. Feminism in the 70s/80s was all about giving women choices, and legitimising whatever those choices might be. But in the last decade or so, there seems to be a renewed and increased obsession with motherhood.
Women who don’t have children, for whatever reason, are often considered to be somehow “less than,” women who don’t understand the meaning of love, or sacrifice. We become familiar with condescension. We are invisible – to politicians and policymakers, to marketers, to social planners. Yet these days 20-25% of women will never become mothers. We have purchasing power, election votes, voices that count. Hear us, dammit!